New year, new you, new goals. Did last year’s goals become reality for you or were they quickly forgotten a month later? Was the towel thrown in after a week of picking up the kids here, there and everywhere? Did you say “I’ll start over tomorrow” a few times and then simply felt like you failed?
As a wellness coach, probably the most common goals people have had include:
- Lose weight
- More energy
- Get my kids to eat healthier
- Exercise more
- Stop eating sugar
It’s an episode of the movie “Groundhog Day”. The goals are set in their mind, they go full blast for a couple weeks, become overwhelmed, quit, and come to me frustrated and defeated. They have no answers why other than excuses of how busy their life is and that it’s simply too hard. They want to try, they verbalize it, and they truly believe this time will be different. But how come year after year, it’s NEVER different?
Tony Robbins has a statistic of the amount of time it takes for a goal to be forgotten and on the pile and it’s less than 30 days.
So what is the missing spark when it comes to achieving your New Year’s resolution or any goal for that matter? The answer: You’re not going deep enough to your true reasons for change. All the sample goals I list above are simply side effects of something bigger. That something bigger is THE key to you achieving your goal. Your inspiration. The FEELING you’re going after. The source to your HAPPINESS. The nourishment for your confidence & excitement for life.
If you simply write down “I want to eat more vegetables”, “I want to work out at least 3 times this week”, “I want to cook more and eat less processed foods”… your goals will not be achieved. At least not for the long-term. What do you write down instead? Here are some of mine that I’ve had the past 6 months to give you some help:
- I want mental clarity and excitement when I am with my daughter. I actually want to play with her, to run after her, to laugh, be creative and inspirational so we both have amazing memories of this time.
- I want to avoid disease as much as I can. With cancer in both my mother and father’s lives, I vow to only put things that will nourish my body and to avoid cancer and disease as much as I can.
- I want to sleep well so my body can recover, heal, and energize. I want to sleep at least 7 hours of quality sleep so I can wake up with my family happy, full of life, and excited to start a new day.
There are no formulas for the above such as drink more green smoothies, exercise for 30 minutes 5 days a week, avoid gluten, reduce sugar, or meal plan for the week. Many of us know what it means to make healthy choices. We have information in front of us constantly. Ironically the formula for health is whole & real foods, movement, happiness, stress-reduction, and creativity. But what will get us to make choices in each area so we, as an entire family, achieve total wellness? It’s figuring out YOUR reason, your why, your feeling, what YOU see YOUR life being. What you want for your family. What will make your time on this earth full of quality? Let’s brainstorm for a bit and I want you to let me know what matters to you. What truly matters to your family?